Getting The Love You Want, From The Inside Out

First, recognize that you already have tons of power readyto be used to achieve your dream of a perfect mate. It doesnot matter whether you are competing with others for thesame person, or whether you are ugly looking, unattractive,shy or lack of charisma. You only have to take thistremendous power that you already possess and move it in anew direction. It is already there stored up within you, butis being scattered and misdirected. What we are going to dois focus it and aim it. Then watch miracles happen!
Try to get in touch with where your power is heading rightnow. It is entirely possible that you have made decisions inyour recent or not so recent past that are nowcounterproductive to your finding a wonderful mate. I haveencountered people who keep telling me: “I will never have a truly happy relationship.”“I am unattractive, other people do not want to be close tome.”“I always attract the wrong person.”“I am not sociable enough. People do not even want to befriends with me.” “I’ve been hurt badly. I think I will not love again.”“I cannot talk well. People do not find me interesting.” If you look closely enough, you’ll notice that all of thepeople mentioned above hold some kind of beliefs within andabout themselves. They feel that they are unattractive, toofat, too thin, too old, too ugly and uninteresting and thusthey are unable to attract or capture the heart of a personwhom they like. Some admit that they are very shy,unsociable, and do not like to be part of a big group ofpeople, and thus without some sort of charisma, they feelthey will never be able to find and attract a wonderfulpartner for themselves.
Then there are others who have been in bad relationships ormarriages before and are hurt so badly that they begin tobelieve that they will never have a truly happyrelationship, and so will never attract a right and perfectmate again.
There is one basic truth of the law of the Universe whichyou have to remember, and that is:
Believe, and you’ll see
Many of us are being taught that ‘seeing is believing.’ Itsounds logical, isn’t it? You have to see some kind ofconcrete proof with your eyes first, only then will youbelieve that it is a fact. This is why we are always feelingthat we are under the control of our outer circumstances,external events or other people. We feel that things andevents are not within our control. There is nothing we cando about it.
Now, I’m going to tell you that it should be the other wayround! Think about it. Take as long as you want to realizethis truth – Believe, and you’ll see.
You don’t see to believe. You believe first, and then you’llsee it all happening. This is how the events, circumstancesand things in our daily lives happen. A lot of events orcircumstances in our daily lives do not happen just bychance, by accident, by fate or by destiny. We create them,whether consciously or unconsciously. We are the creators ofour own destiny. There are no accidents.
Thus, the very first step to finding and attracting aperfect partner, or even to get your first date is to takeresponsibility for your own power, which every one of uspossesses. If you are lonely right now, and wondering whyyou could never find or attract a person who will truly loveyou, realize this: things are the way they are because thatis how we insist they must be. This is one of the immortaltruths of love and relationship.
Things are the way they are right now for you because youhave, whether consciously or unconsciously, made some sortof emotional decisions in your recent or not so recent past,that are now counterproductive to your finding a good andwonderful partner.
You may have told yourself:
“There is a big group of people over there. Should I joinin their conversation? Maybe I shouldn’t, I will made a foolof myself (You are shy! You don’t feel secure.)” “The person that I like is over there. Should I go overand strike up a conversation with him? But, there are otherprettier women near him. He wouldn’t bother to notice me.”(You tell yourself you are unattractive, you stop yourselfapproaching the person you like). Believe, and you’ll see. If you see yourself in the examplesgiven above, now you should have a better understanding whyit seems you have so much difficulties finding andattracting a wonderful mate. The answer is right here,within you. Search the answer within your-self first, do notlook elsewhere.
If you believe you are too fat or too thin, and that youwill never be able to attract a perfect mate, then, your‘wish’ is going to materialize. Believe, and you’ll see.
If you believe you will never attract a responsible andloving mate ever again (because you have been hurt badly inprevious relationships or marriages), then you will neverattract a wonderful mate. Period. Believe, and you’ll see.
If you believe you will never capture the heart of theperson you like (because you are too shy to approachhim/her, or that you believe there are better and moreattractive woman or man for him/her who are far better thanyou, or that you have no confidence of winning that person’sheart), then, you’ll never win the heart of this person whomyou like and love so much. Believe, and you’ll see.
When I see someone repeatedly trying to make somethinghappen and being unsuccessful I always look at the person tofind out why they are stopping themselves. The fact is, weall consciously (or unconsciously) choose our currentcircumstances or situations in our relationships. Now, askyourself: Why are you stopping yourself?
Now, don’t get me wrong. It is perfectly okay if you feel,say, you are a shy person. There is nothing wrong with youfeeling this way in the first place. This could be due to alot of factors and reasons such as your upbringing, the typeof education you have received, the environment and cultureyou are being exposed to from a young age, or it could verylikely be due to your habitual way of thinking, attitude,character and so on and so forth.
The first step in this magical process of finding,attracting and capturing the heart of the person you like,is to get in touch with your personal power right now. Takea good look at the way your life is in the relationship andmarriage area and realize that it is exactly as you want itto be.
I know it is going to sound a little ironical, since you areprobably reading this resource hoping to find out how tomake things better in this area, the secrets of makinganother person like you, or the secrets of getting yourfirst date or drawing a true love to you somewhat magically(if you are not yet eyeing someone you know).
For me to say that it is already just the way you want it issomewhat of a paradox. However, this is really the startingpoint and the foundation of having personal power in yourrelationships.
Much of my work with my clients is to help them get back intouch with their personal power, by showing them they arethe ones who make their relationship choices. If they stillcould not find or attract a true love, or that they arestill unable to connect with a person they like, it is NOTbecause other people have not considered them, are rejectingthem, or that they are destined to be lonely all their life(many of them believe so!), but that they themselves makesuch relationship choices! Once they see this clearly, oncethey understand what is going on, a certain realization andfreedom emerges in them. Having regained their power, theyare now ready to use it to create something different intheir love lives.
This awareness, that of acknowledging our power, and seeinghow and why we have made all of our current choices inrelationships and other areas, is the magic elixir thatopens up a new world of possibilities.