"What Are HIS/HER Needs? Secrets To Attracting The Right Life Companion Into Your Life"


People like to have their needs met and want you to take the LEAD in meeting them. This is the unspoken truth of persuasive secrets.

Zig Ziglar is a world famous salesman and now sales trainer. His famous quote is “You will always get what you want if you give enough people what they want” is a tried and true strategy both in the world of sales and in the world of love.

It’s also a very sound Universal Principle. Our job is to love and care for others in the way they want to be loved and cared for.

It is about the Platinum Rule not just the Golden Rule. The Platinum rule states “Give people what they want in the way THEY want it”.

And if we are with the right person then this will be easy for us and it will be easy for them to give us what we want especially if we let them know.

Too often we tend to assume the intentions of others. Don’t assume. Spell it out to your potential mate what you like them to do or not do – “Call me at ______”, or “You can email me at _________”. And know what you want.

Its important to find out what they want too. Your preconceived notions may be mistaken. You can put your Sherlock Holmes detective hat and find out if you assumptions are right or not.

Once you find out what they want give it to them. If you have given them all that they want in the way they want it but they are still not motivated or able to meet you needs you have some life and relationship choices to make.

Your job is to give freely first, however if they are not able to meet your needs you may want to ask “Is He (She) the “highest and best for me.”

Relationship with Mastery, Love and the right partner is effortless, easy and fun; however you may have to switch up your game so you get on track with whom you are with or wanting to be with.

I once had a client who spent too much time and energy trying to figure out what his woman was thinking. He wanted to date her; but was afraid of rejections; and kept questioning himself whether he should send her flowers or a card. He was afraid she wouldn’t like what he gave her. I told him, people like to be understood, recognized and loved.

If he wouldn’t proceed to date her don’t expect her to take any actions! Some personalities are shy and are just dying to have you take the initiative. Some people and depending on the society, gender or and personality have been trained to be the receptor vs the initiator. “What if she rejected me?” He asked. “You can’t keep putting papaya seeds in the soil and expect to see an apple tree!” I told him. “If one way doesn’t work with her, try another way!”

And if she is not “Highest and Best” for your energy it will not be returned and you will find it harder and harder even if you use all sorts of techniques.

The answer is not about techniques and strategies. It is about flow and vibration.

With your Soulmate or one that is Higher and Better for you there is always an “Expanding Vortex of Energy Exchange” As you give energy to the person it will be expanded back to you.

If you have not understood their unique personality or style, then if you are initially blocked and switch they will respond. However if you switch and use techniques that would appeal to any style and especially theirs and nothing happens; and on top of that you even get a heaviness, then you know this is a message to tell you to move on and find someone better for you.

This guy got my message clear. I wasn’t able to see the woman he liked and he expected me to give him a magical solution to attract that girl. I couldn’t give him that of course, since I wouldn’t know what her desires and needs are. But I taught him one important skill, that is, to constantly develop new ways of responding to objections and understanding the messages.
Its call “sensory acuity” Listen and See the feedback people and the Universe are giving you and move accordingly with the Stream or “River of Life”. And learn to listen to your Soul.

However don’t give up too soon” if you “just know” and feel deeply in your heart and soul that this person may one of your potential Soulmate.

He gave her his contact number so she can contact him should she be interested to go out with him. He heard nothing from her for a week. He sent her a card with his email address besides his signature. No response either. A month later, he text her a message casually asking her if she would like to go to the gym with him, “to whack the weights” this was what he wrote in his message.

The woman responded and enquired why he would want to “whack the weights?” He gave his honest feelings and thoughts: It always gave him a good feeling after working out hard and sweating it out. In his own words, “it was as if all the negative energy in him evaporated.”

She agreed to go to the gym with him. To cut a long story short, this was the starting point of their blossoming relationship. He found out later that, she was recovering from a previous failed relationship and was moody all the time while he was trying so hard to connect with her.

That he could “whack the weights” and knocked out all the negative energies inside of him intrigued her so much that she decided to give it a try.

This guy didn’t know he had hit the right key when he asked her to go to the gym. He would never had succeeded winning her over if he had given up and if he didn’t switch his style and try some different approaches.

He also realized that at some point she may not be his highest and best if she never responds but she did when he hit the right chord. Careful planning will help you to survive your first date and may lay the groundwork for a second date. Make sure you have planned out the date ahead of time and made arrangements to ensure that the date runs smoothly. On a first date it is best not to leave anything to chance or to rely on making on the spot decisions about what to do next because doing so can create uncomfortable moments on the date.

Don’t just plan out what you would like to do on the date but also map out the best routes to arrive at your destinations and pre-arrange any necessary reservations so you don’t wind up not being able to find your destination or waiting a long time for an activity. While careful preparation before the date will ensure that everything runs smoothly and will eliminate any unnecessary tension on the date you may still need to remain flexible. Despite your best efforts, you may suffer a snag in your plans and being flexible and willing to adapt your plans will prevent you and your date from being frustrated on the date. Your date will be impressed that you went to so much trouble in planning the date and will be flattered by your efforts